A loved one sent me a couple of posts from Facebook the other day. She texted, “I thought you would like them.” I did and very timely.
A person might try to make you think it’s you that made them behave badly. It’s not you; it’s them. Don’t buy their rationalizations and excuses, even if you have before. Say no. You did not create this person. You do not control their behavior. They are not children who get to plead, “I didn’t mean any harm.” or explain cruel words with “Obviously, I didn’t mean it.” They do not get to plead innocence with, “What did I do?” Own your shit, but do not own theirs. There are names for people who try to blame you for their bad behavior.